You probably believe this: When things (circumstances) go well for you, that will cause you to be happy (peace and joy). When things don’t go well, that will cause you to be either sad or anxious or angry or some other negative emotion. Basically, you won’t be happy. Let’s look at this a little closer. I’m going to be arguing here that our feelings (good or bad) come not directly from the circumstances of our lives but from what we BELIEVE about our circumstances. Let’s do a thought experiment to test this idea.
Hypothetical: Let’s say that you are experiencing severe financial distress and all the emotional pain of fear, discouragement, etc. Can’t pay the bills. Yet, unknown to you, a distant relative who lives in another country has left you $10 million in a foreign bank account that you’ve never been told about. So, you’re wealthy, in reality. But, you don’t know that you are. Yet, your feelings are not caused by the REALITY of your wealth. They are caused by the MISTAKEN REALITY of what you believe – that you are broke. If you knew and believed that you had the $10 million, you would not be in emotional distress about your finances. I’m trying to be brief. This paragraph may not adequately make my point. Let me know.